Do you feel trapped and helpless in a situation or relationship? "Love it – Change it – Leave it" is a simple but powerful strategy to strengthen your self-efficacy and thus your resilience, and to escape feelings of helplessness.
Approaching Resilience: How LCL Works
LOVE it
Can you accept the situation or see something positive in it?
Is there an opportunity for personal growth?
Do you enjoy taking on the challenge?
CHANGE it
Can you actively change something – your perspective, your behavior, or your reaction?
Do you need support or new skills to improve the situation?
Is setting boundaries necessary to feel better?
LEAVE it
How do you feel physically and emotionally?
Would you feel better if you distanced yourself or left the situation?
What is (still) holding you back?
What makes this resilience exercise so effective?
The three statements Love it – Change it – Leave it are fantastic aids for reflecting on your position in stressful situations and gaining clarity about your options. Under stress, we sometimes fixate on one path and overlook the variety of solutions available to us. LCL functions like an internal navigation system that helps you decide whether you can find something positive in the situation (Love it), whether you want to change your perspective (Change it), or whether you want to leave the situation (Leave it).
Write down your answers by hand. Putting your feelings and thoughts on paper helps you see things more clearly and strengthen your resilience.
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Additional Benefits for Your Resilience
Self-reflection and self-care
Stress reduction: Shifting your focus from helplessness to proactive action strengthens your self-efficacy and reduces stress.
Mental flexibility: LCL encourages open and creative thinking and promotes finding alternative solutions.
NO: Gain clarity about your boundaries.
Strategy: Use your analytical and strategic skills to make decisions that are smart and promote resilience.
Tips for Implementation
- Step by step: For very complex situations, break the topic down into smaller "chunks." Don't overwhelm yourself and trust the process.
- Flexible and specific: Answer the statements as openly as possible and make it concrete – this is all information for your decision-making process!
- Be patient: It's not about finding perfect solutions immediately. Be kind to yourself and take your time. Your answers will reveal themselves.
- The Power Rule: Check your solutions for their value to your resilience: Do you feel stronger, freer, more authentic? Good! Are you giving up/giving in/backing down? Keep at it and repeat the exercise another day.
Resilience is not about enduring, but about shaping
Being resilient doesn't mean bravely enduring everything and just carrying on. It's about making decisions that are aligned with your needs and goals. Remember: hardly any decision is final. You can almost always readjust, try new paths, or change your direction. Allow yourself this flexibility!
Conclusion: LCL – Activate your inner navigation system
By consciously realizing which aspects of a difficult situation you want to accept, change, or let go of, you promote your self-efficacy and resilience. The more often you practice Love it – Change it – Leave it, the more flexible you will become in dealing with stressors and you will learn to trust your inner compass and focus on your needs and goals.
Have fun trying it out!
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Questions & Answers
What does LCL do for my resilience if I'm completely stuck?
"Love it – Change it – Leave it" brings structure to chaos. It helps you get out of the victim role and see your options clearly – without pressure, but with direction. Writing creates clarity.
I can't change anything – what should I do then?
Inner changes also count: your attitude, your boundaries, your self-care. Even if you can't "leave," you can gain inner distance – and that is incredibly powerful.
I have more questions than answers – is that normal?
Absolutely. This is the beginning. Questions show that you are moving forward. Repeat the exercise. Your clarity may not come immediately – but it will come. Promised.
Laura Bierling – Coach, Mediator, Resilience Trainer
As a coach, I support people in gaining clarity about their desires and developing inner strength. I know how challenging it can be to balance one's own needs with work, family, and expectations. With Daylista, I want to encourage women to consciously shape their forties and fifties – with self-confidence, lightness, and the courage to change.
