Do you feel trapped and helpless in a situation or relationship? "Love it – Change it – Leave it" is a simple yet powerful strategy to strengthen your self-efficacy and thus your resilience , and to escape feelings of helplessness.
Tackling resilience: How LCL works
LOVE it
Can you accept the situation or see something positive in it?
Is this an opportunity for personal growth?
Do you enjoy taking on the challenge?
CHANGE it
Can you actively change something – your perspective, your behavior or your reaction?
Do you need support or new skills to improve the situation?
Do you need to distance yourself to feel better?
LEAVE it
How are you feeling physically and emotionally?
Would you feel better if you distanced yourself or left the situation?
What is (still) stopping you?
What makes this resilience exercise so effective?
The three statements Love it – Change it – Leave it are fantastic tools for reflecting on where you stand in stressful situations and gaining clarity about your options. Under stress, we sometimes fixate on one path and overlook the multitude of solutions available to us. LCL works like an internal navigation system that helps you decide whether you can gain something positive from the situation (Love it), whether you want to change your perspective (Change it), or leave the situation (Leave it).
Write down your answers by hand. Putting your feelings and thoughts on paper will help you see things more clearly and build resilience.
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Additional benefits for your resilience
Self-reflection and self-care
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Stress reduction: Shifting your focus from helplessness to proactive action strengthens your self-efficacy and reduces stress.
Mental flexibility: LCL allows you to think openly and creatively and encourages you to find alternative solutions.
NO: Be clear about your limits.
Strategy: Use your analytical and strategic skills to make smart decisions that promote resilience.
Tips for implementation
- Step by step: For very complex situations, break the topic down into smaller chunks. Don't overwhelm yourself and trust the process.
- Flexible and specific: Respond to the statements as openly as possible and be specific – this is all information for your decision-making process!
- Be patient: It's not about finding perfect solutions right away. Be kind to yourself and take your time. Your answers will reveal themselves.
- The Strength Rule: Review your solutions for their value to your resilience: Do you feel stronger, freer, more authentic? Good! Are you giving up/giving in/giving in? Stay with it and repeat the exercise another day.
Resilience does not mean enduring, but shaping
Being resilient doesn't mean bravely enduring everything and simply moving on. It's about making decisions that align with your needs and goals. Remember: Hardly any decision is final. You can almost always adjust, try new approaches, or change your direction. Allow yourself this flexibility!
Conclusion: LCL – Activate your inner navigation system
By becoming aware of which aspects of a difficult situation you want to accept, change, or let go of, you build self-efficacy and resilience. The more often you practice Love It – Change It – Leave It , the more flexible you'll become in dealing with stressors and learn to trust your inner navigation system and focus on your needs and goals.
Have fun trying it out!
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Questions & Answers
How does LCL help me with my resilience when I'm completely stuck?
"Love it – Change it – Leave it" brings structure to chaos. It helps you step out of the victim role and see your options clearly – without pressure, but with direction. Writing creates clarity.
I can't change anything – what should I do then?
Inner changes also count: your attitude, your boundaries, your self-care. Even if you can't "leave," you can gain inner distance—and that's incredibly powerful.
I have more questions than answers – is that normal?
Absolutely. This is the beginning. Questions show that you're moving. Repeat the exercise. Your clarity won't always come immediately – but it will come. I promise.
Laura Bierling – Coach, Mediator, Resilience Trainer
As a coach, I help people gain clarity about their desires and develop inner strength. I know how challenging it can be to balance one's own needs with career, family, and expectations. With Daylista, I want to encourage women to consciously shape their forties and fifties – with confidence, ease, and the courage to embrace change.
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